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6 Topics to Avoid on a First Date

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Nothing is guaranteed to bring on a nervous sweat like the anticipation of a first date. The thought of an evening filled with awkward silences and shifty side glances is enough to make even the most confident Romeo quiver.

There’s lots of great advice here on how to start a conversation and keep it going, but in this post I’ll go one step further and highlight some of the conversational hot potatoes you should avoid if you want to make it to date number two…

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5 Ways to Make Her Happy Without Spending Money

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Sometimes guys think that the only way to impress or make a woman happy is to spend money.

Be it bragging about his salary/house/car or buying flashy, expensive gifts and taking her to the swankiest hundred-dollar-bottle-of-wine restaurant in town, some men use money as a substitute for time, love and tenderness.

Well guys, here’s a newsflash for you. Yes, we do love shoes, and yes, there is a time and place for gifts and treats, but we’d much rather the simple things like your undivided attention.

Quality time beats that new diamond bracelet any day. And if you’re thinking “Yeah, right!” then read on to discover five ways you can make her day without spending a dime.

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The Secret To Connecting On A First Date

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There’s a lot of advice on the internet about first dates and most of it sucks.

The problem is that most advice doesn’t address the underlying reasons why people have bad first dates. I’m hoping to change that with this article.

I was like you. I used to have a terrible time with first dates.

Before the date, I would get nervous. I’d worry about every little detail: what should I wear, what if we don’t have fun, what are we going to talk about, what if I run out of things to say, etc.

If you couldn’t already guess, this mental ‘preparation’ led to some pretty awful first dates. The whole process became stressful and was anything but fun.

So I went online and tried to find out what I was doing wrong. Some of the stellar advice I found included tips like: dress casual, be confident, and turn off your phone.

Wow, my life was forever changed. All along my phone was sabotaging me. Thank God for the infinite wisdom of the internet.

Obviously, none of this advice helped.

I continued to try my luck, but once you’ve had a few bad first dates, the problem only gets worse. I became even more nervous, had even worse dates, until eventually, I had enough.

I gave up dating. I was through wasting time and money, only to be left feeling miserable.

It wasn’t until I gave up dating that I realized the secret behind why some people consistently had successful dating experiences, and I couldn’t have a good date to save my life.

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10 Ways to Spot a Player

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Simply put, you can’t spot a player. What you can do though is keep an eye out for any of the following signs that may save you the bother of an achy breaky heart.

Most tips read like common sense. Yet typically common sense is the first thing you lose when you get involved with someone.

I think it is more likely that there is a mismatch between dating intentions; one person wants a relationship but the other person wants to mostly have some fun. Or, perhaps they do want a serious relationship, but sadly not with you. Ouch.

Let us imagine that there is no such thing as a “player” but instead a “funster.” There is no playing of you like an air guitar, but more a mismatch between people and intentions in the laundry basket of love. An easy mistake to make, yet there is no harm in preventing this faux pas with a simple check: is your date a serious foot glove or a pop sock?

Let’s have a look at some ways you can spot a player (funster)…

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6 First Date Mistakes Any Successful Online Dater Doesn’t Make

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How important is the first date?

The short answer: big. 

Actually, the biggest.

Knowing what to do on a first date is key so the next logical topic to explore is what not to do.

First dates really are the most important ones because it can be the start of a beautiful romantic adventure or it can be so bad that it will leave you scarred and apprehensive about ever going out another first date again.

So, with that sobering thought in mind, what are some first date mistakes you should avoid doing?

Let’s take a look!

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