Online dating is everywhere you turn these days. With time constraints, responsibilities and other factors, it makes sense that many people go online as a way to achieve their relationship goals.
As with anything else that’s popular, there are a number of misconceptions about online dating.
But, do you ever get tired of hearing online dating myths that make you question whether it’s even worth your time?
In this post, we’ll dispel three myths so that you can put an end to the questions in your head or any of your family/friends who think you’re wasting time with looking for dates online.
It’s crucial to dispel these myths so that you can reap the many benefits of an online dating service and find which one is best for you.
So, let’s look at three common myths and expose them for how wrong they really are.
1. Finding Love Online Is Impossible
Impossible. Really? That’s a stretch.
Below is a list of things that are truly impossible:
- Exceeding the speed of light
- Counting to Infinity
- Solving the 15 puzzle
- Squaring the circle
- Doubling the cube
- Bench-pressing 1,000,000 pounds
- Stealing the Lincoln Memorial
- Skateboarding without a skateboard
- Finding a unicorn in your backyard
- Traveling back in time through sheer willpower
To look at this from another angle, I would argue that if you’re searching for a compatible partner, online dating is far superior to spending time in a bar, in the library or another venue where you might get lucky and meet the match of your dreams.
In all the places above, there really is no due process.
Yes, going out to these venues is a good way to practice your social skills but after a few minutes of conversation, can you really say that you know someone? Their interests, goals and desires? What books they like to read or music they listen to?
Most online dating sites have a process in place where the steps in getting to know someone are gradual. This process allows a chance for each match to get to know each other before diving into a date.
2. Dating Online Is Dangerous
Dating online doesn’t have to be dangerous.
As mentioned above, there is a process involved with most dating sites. Anyone who goes to the trouble of setting up a profile, posting photos, writing a description and messaging others can probably think of other ways to cause harm to people that require a little less effort and time.
So, truthfully, online dating is as safe as you make it. If you proceed with caution you should have no issues.
I would suggest following a few basic guidelines:
- Never use your home address
- Don’t provide someone with your home number or cell number before actually meeting in person
- Avoid telling someone exactly where you work
Another good point to remember is always meet your date in a public place. It could be a restaurant, a coffee shop or busy park. Meet in a place where you can easily move on if you’re not feeling right about things.
Nobody should force you to reveal personal information about yourself. If they are, that is a huge red flag and sign for you to move on.
Play it safe, use common sense and there is no reason why online dating won’t be safe for you.
3. Dating Online Is for Computer Nerds
Maybe online dating was for computer nerds at one point but that definitely is not the case anymore.
How many people do you know who have attempted online dating? I bet that you can name someone off the top of your head right now.
In fact, an actor friend of mine (who has no problem attracting interest from ladies) has tried online dating. He says it’s a great way of going slowly, testing for interest and getting to know someone.
Online daters come from all walks of life:
- Teachers, Paramedics, Lawyers
- Blondes, Brunettes, Redheads
- Americans, British, Australians
Of course, these are just a few examples.
The underlying theme is that these people have decided to harness the power of the Internet to help make their dating dreams a reality.
Things have even gotten very specialized these days.
Here are a few dating site types to match specific demographics:
- Gay and Lesbian
So there really is something for everyone when it comes to online dating.
Many of the myths out there about online dating are founded in a scarcity mentality. There is an abundance of sites and people online that it makes it nearly impossible to not find what you’re looking for.
Everyone is entitled to believe in a myth but what if you find an amazing husband or wife with online dating? Does it really matter then where you met?
The answer is a resounding “No!”
Don’t listen to the myths out there, follow your heart and drastically increase your chances of success by being an online dater.