The most important thing that you should look to get right when it comes to online dating is your profile.
Whilst a great first message can get you off on the right foot with a potential match, if your profile doesn’t deliver, your messaging skills will be for nought.
Furthermore, with the sheer number of profiles on dating sites, yours will have to be above average in order to catch the eye.
Fortunately, it is not too difficult to put together a profile that is better than most. Today, I want to share a few key tips that I have learned in my years of online dating.
Photos Are Key
Let’s start with something obvious – if you want any chance of your profile attracting attention, you should have photos. Not only that, they should be good photos.
I’m not going to get into the specifics of profile photos here because that deserves a post all of its own, but as a rule of thumb, try to include at least 3-4 good quality images. Not of your dog, or of the skyline of a city you once visited, but of you.
Beyond that, you might want to throw in some pictures that will provoke intrigue. If you once abseiled down the Empire State Building, throw a photo in.
Spend Some Time on Your Headline
Most dating sites have a “headline” section, where you can write a few short words that typically display on search results and the like. In addition to your main photo, it can have a relatively major impact in determining your success.
There are a number of things that you might plan for your headline to be:
However, all of the above approaches have the potential to backfire. You don’t want to be too provocative, for instance. If in doubt, remain conservative.
Coming up with a headline can be rather tough, but I’ve got a handy guide for you right here.
Construct Your Profile’s Content in Three Steps
Sitting in front of a blank screen and struggling to think of what you should include in your profile can be frustrating to say the least. However, writing a good profile isn’t that difficult. Just break it down into three distinct sections:
- A brief biography - your name, what you do, what you like
- Your “selling points” – the positive things that you bring to a relationship
- What you’re looking for in a partner - focus on character, rather than physical attributes
Each section should be concise and informative, and in total should take no more than a minute or two to read. Try not to over-think what you write – after all, you are trying to put across a true reflection of yourself, not a carefully fabricated lie.
Keep it Friendly, Positive and Light
There is no room in your profile for negativity, so keep any melancholy thoughts and judgmental opinions to yourself. Doing so isn’t misleading – you are simply putting your best foot forward.
Creative Commons image courtesy of Vít Hassan