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How to Deal with Rejection

Graffiti depicting rejection.

The cause behind most online dating disappointments is rejection. No one likes being rejected and depending upon your level of sensitivity and commitment to online dating, the regularity with which you are plagued by feelings of rejection may be occasional or quite often.

However, rejection is inevitable — both in online dating and “traditional” dating. It cannot be avoided. Even the most eligible matches have experienced rejection; it is part and parcel of leading any kind of life that doesn’t involve hiding in a cave, living a hermit-esque existence and cutting yourself off from the world.

With that in mind, your success in online dating is partly attributable to how well you handle rejection and how quickly you bounce back from it. In this post I want to explore why online dating rejection should be nothing but a minor road bump on the journey to finding your perfect match.

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Who Should Call First?


Something I have never done is call an online match before meeting them in person. I always advocate getting to the first date as soon as possible, which typically means no more than 2-4 messages before I ask them out.

However, some people do like to speak first, and I can certainly see why. Although I feel that you can’t judge chemistry over the phone, if you’re feeling a little nervous about meeting someone in person, having a telephone conversation first can bridge the gap somewhat.

So for those who like to speak on the phone before meeting in person, the key question is, who should call first?

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How to Ask for a First Date

How to Ask for a First Date

Asking someone out tends to be a little nerve-wracking.

Whilst a few lucky people are blessed with supreme levels of confidence (more power to them), most of us tend to be a little more hesitant.

One thing is for sure though — asking people out online is a lot easier than it is in “real life”. It’s far less about courage, and more about simply having a process. Once you understand how to go about getting dates online, the nervousness can all but disappear.

Besides, when it comes to asking for a first date, it is far less about how you ask, and far more about the circumstances.

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Online Dating Email Tips

Online Dating: Email Tips

As I have said on more than one occasion, your profile is by far your most important “asset” when it comes to the world of online dating. A good profile can make all the difference.

However, sending interesting and unique messages and emails does come in close second. If you can portray yourself effectively via email, it can make up for some shortcomings in your profile. But if you have a good profile but come across as boring (or even worse, creepy) in your messages, you’ll struggle to get many dates.

Whilst you shouldn’t try to be someone you’re not when communicating with a potential match, you should put your best foot forward. With that in mind, today I want to cover the most important tips — emailing etiquette, if you will — that you should bear in mind when emailing.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Online Dating: How to Ask Her Out

So you’ve decided that the time has come.

You recognize that time is precious and that you should ask a potential match out sooner rather than later. You’ve exchanged a few messages with a woman that you like, and you know it’s time to make a move. But you’re not sure how to.

Fortunately, asking a woman out on a dating site really easy, once you know how. I’ll explain.

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