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What is a Good Online Dating Name?

What makes a good online dating user name? Just ask Edward and Bella

What’s in a (screen) name?

I have often been asked by readers and dating profile clients what makes for a really good online dating name.

Well, think about it—especially you folks who complain that your fellow singles “only look at the pictures anyway.” This is your chance to be clever, cool, fun, witty, and alluring.

That is, If you don’t totally mess it up by coming up with something stupid, self-obsessed, or downright uninteresting.

I find it’s helpful to answer the question about handles with a question or two of my own:

Guys, in real life, could a woman possibly feel a hot animal attraction to you if you were to introduce yourself as Bob4UOnly? Dubious.

Or, if you’re a woman:

How enthralling would you be to the handsome guy standing in line with you at Starbuck’s if you were to open with, “Hey there, I’m TwilightObsessd!”

In my last post I explained why online dating is a numbers game—and why your one and only task in creating your dating profile is to convince vast numbers of profile visitors that you are someone they must learn more about.

Well, you may ask, how in heaven’s name do I go about being so charismatic? Great question. And what better place to begin getting down to fascination tactics than your user name? I want to talk beginning your online profile with a fantastic user name—but first I feel compelled to offer a little rant advice on what makes a handle horrid.

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Should You Email an Unresponsive Match?

A stormtrooper with a love letter.

Anyone who’s dabbled in online dating has been in this position. You’ve found a good match — a box-ticker. They’re attractive, smart, funny, and they share your bizarre love of antique teacups. What’s more, when you message them they reply! Who knew online dating could be so easy?

You reply in earnest. But then there is an ominous silence. Hours pass; then days. Your initial excitement is replaced with disappointment. After all, there can only be so many great matches and this guy or girl certainly seemed to be one of them.

At this stage the temptation to message them again can be pretty strong, but you may be hesitant to do so at the risk of seeming desperate. The question therefore is, should you email an unresponsive match?

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Why Don’t Girls Respond?

A hanging telephone

There are few things worse than sending out a bunch of messages via an online dating site and getting no replies. After all, you’re on a dating site to date — if you can’t even strike up a reciprocal conversation, what hope do you have of taking things to the next level?

But online dating definitely is for everyone — you’re not the failing exception that proves the rule. If you are struggling to get a response to your messages, you probably just need to make some minor tweaks to your approach in order to boost the response rate.

So if anyone can succeed with online dating, why don’t girls respond to your messages?

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How to Get a Response From Your Dream Match

How to Get a Response From Your Dream Match

There are times where you will come across a profile that you really like — a real box-ticker.

Good looking? Check. Shared interests? Check. Intelligent? Check. Funny? Check. Well-educated? Check. This is someone who you could have a real connection with.

Of course, you can’t make any sweeping assumptions from just a profile and some photos, but you feel as good about this match as you have about any.

Now all you need to do is send the kind of message that will attract a response. Easy, right?

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How to Ask for a First Date

How to Ask for a First Date

Asking someone out tends to be a little nerve-wracking.

Whilst a few lucky people are blessed with supreme levels of confidence (more power to them), most of us tend to be a little more hesitant.

One thing is for sure though — asking people out online is a lot easier than it is in “real life”. It’s far less about courage, and more about simply having a process. Once you understand how to go about getting dates online, the nervousness can all but disappear.

Besides, when it comes to asking for a first date, it is far less about how you ask, and far more about the circumstances.

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