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Online Dating Messages: 5 Scripts to Use and 3 to Avoid

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When contacting a match, wouldn’t it be great to have a few online dating message scripts that you know are going to increase your chances of receiving a reply?

In this post, we’re going to look at five online dating message scripts you can use to help you and three to avoid using at all costs.

We’ll get into the underlying reasons why they are effective so that you can modify them to fit your own personal style. After that, we’ll look at three online dating message scripts that you should avoid when contacting a match.

Why is it important to have a good message script that generates a reply? To reward you for all your hard work and get you closer to meeting your match!

Let’s have a look!

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Is Online Dating a Numbers Game?

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(Yes, it is–but not in the way you think.)

Talk to any frustrated user of an online dating service, and you’re likely to hear a glum, “Online dating is juuuust a big numbers game.”

Accompanied by a dismissive shrug of the shoulders.

And…perhaps even a slight whimper to complete the portrait of Joe or Joanna Singleton who just can’t seem to catch a break. Oh, it’s not that they don’t try, mind you. Joe will tell you about his efforts to write nice, gentlemanly introductions to the parade of lovely women he spies on Match—and then about his growing annoyance, as he awaits replies…with only the chirping of crickets to keep him company.

And Joanna is quite likely to tell you about the periodic overtures of men who seemed both promising and interested online–but who (alas) turned out to live with Mom and lack any evidence of actual employment.

And they sigh and look solemn. Online dating, they declare, is an impossible numbers game. They’d have to quit their jobs and take up full-time dating in order to actually find that true-love needle in the mountainous haystack of singles.

Well, if there’s one thing my time on dating sites has taught me, it’s that Joe and Joanna are dead-on in their conclusion that numbers rule online dating.

But not exactly in the way they presume.

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How to Get a Response From Your Dream Match

How to Get a Response From Your Dream Match

There are times where you will come across a profile that you really like — a real box-ticker.

Good looking? Check. Shared interests? Check. Intelligent? Check. Funny? Check. Well-educated? Check. This is someone who you could have a real connection with.

Of course, you can’t make any sweeping assumptions from just a profile and some photos, but you feel as good about this match as you have about any.

Now all you need to do is send the kind of message that will attract a response. Easy, right?

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Online Dating: Questions to Ask Men

Online Dating: Questions to Ask Men

I’m all for women taking the initiative when it comes to online dating.

I think that there are a lot of women out there who create a profile, then wait for men to come to them. And invariably, they do. But the problem is that a lot of these guys might not be considered a perfect match (to put it lightly).

If you are nodding your head at this scenario, maybe it’s about time you took the bull by the horns and started reaching out to a few guys that you like the look of. If you think that this would be a good idea but are not sure where to start, keep reading!

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Online Dating Email Tips

Online Dating: Email Tips

As I have said on more than one occasion, your profile is by far your most important “asset” when it comes to the world of online dating. A good profile can make all the difference.

However, sending interesting and unique messages and emails does come in close second. If you can portray yourself effectively via email, it can make up for some shortcomings in your profile. But if you have a good profile but come across as boring (or even worse, creepy) in your messages, you’ll struggle to get many dates.

Whilst you shouldn’t try to be someone you’re not when communicating with a potential match, you should put your best foot forward. With that in mind, today I want to cover the most important tips — emailing etiquette, if you will — that you should bear in mind when emailing.

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