There’s a lot of advice on the internet about first dates and most of it sucks.
The problem is that most advice doesn’t address the underlying reasons why people have bad first dates. I’m hoping to change that with this article.
I was like you. I used to have a terrible time with first dates.
Before the date, I would get nervous. I’d worry about every little detail: what should I wear, what if we don’t have fun, what are we going to talk about, what if I run out of things to say, etc.
If you couldn’t already guess, this mental ‘preparation’ led to some pretty awful first dates. The whole process became stressful and was anything but fun.
So I went online and tried to find out what I was doing wrong. Some of the stellar advice I found included tips like: dress casual, be confident, and turn off your phone.
Wow, my life was forever changed. All along my phone was sabotaging me. Thank God for the infinite wisdom of the internet.
Obviously, none of this advice helped.
I continued to try my luck, but once you’ve had a few bad first dates, the problem only gets worse. I became even more nervous, had even worse dates, until eventually, I had enough.
I gave up dating. I was through wasting time and money, only to be left feeling miserable.
It wasn’t until I gave up dating that I realized the secret behind why some people consistently had successful dating experiences, and I couldn’t have a good date to save my life.