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Should You Email an Unresponsive Match?

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Anyone who’s dabbled in online dating has been in this position. You’ve found a good match — a box-ticker. They’re attractive, smart, funny, and they share your bizarre love of antique teacups. What’s more, when you message them they reply! Who knew online dating could be so easy?

You reply in earnest. But then there is an ominous silence. Hours pass; then days. Your initial excitement is replaced with disappointment. After all, there can only be so many great matches and this guy or girl certainly seemed to be one of them.

At this stage the temptation to message them again can be pretty strong, but you may be hesitant to do so at the risk of seeming desperate. The question therefore is, should you email an unresponsive match?

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How to Reject Someone

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Rejection is rarely much fun for either party involved. It’s never nice to be on the receiving end and is awkward and unpleasant to dish out for most people.

However, it’s not really something you can avoid (nor should you). Continuing to engage with someone on a dating site with whom you have no intention of taking things further is a far more cruel thing to do than the rejection itself.

So with the above said, how should you reject someone on an online dating site?

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How to Ask for a First Date

How to Ask for a First Date

Asking someone out tends to be a little nerve-wracking.

Whilst a few lucky people are blessed with supreme levels of confidence (more power to them), most of us tend to be a little more hesitant.

One thing is for sure though — asking people out online is a lot easier than it is in “real life”. It’s far less about courage, and more about simply having a process. Once you understand how to go about getting dates online, the nervousness can all but disappear.

Besides, when it comes to asking for a first date, it is far less about how you ask, and far more about the circumstances.

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Online Dating Email Tips

Online Dating: Email Tips

As I have said on more than one occasion, your profile is by far your most important “asset” when it comes to the world of online dating. A good profile can make all the difference.

However, sending interesting and unique messages and emails does come in close second. If you can portray yourself effectively via email, it can make up for some shortcomings in your profile. But if you have a good profile but come across as boring (or even worse, creepy) in your messages, you’ll struggle to get many dates.

Whilst you shouldn’t try to be someone you’re not when communicating with a potential match, you should put your best foot forward. With that in mind, today I want to cover the most important tips — emailing etiquette, if you will — that you should bear in mind when emailing.

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How Long to Wait Between Messages

Online Dating: How Long to Wait Between Messages

As I have said before, there are no rules when it comes to online dating. There is only what feels right to you. Having said that, when forming your own perspective on something, it can help to take someone else’s on board.

With that in mind, today I want to discuss how long you should wait between messages when communicating with a match. This can be a bit of a tricky one — you don’t want to look desperate, nor do you want to seem aloof. You want a nice comfortable middle ground.

In my experience, finding that middle ground is pretty easy. Here are the guidelines that I follow when messaging potential matches.

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