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The Secret To Connecting On A First Date

Happy Relationship Cherries

There’s a lot of advice on the internet about first dates and most of it sucks.

The problem is that most advice doesn’t address the underlying reasons why people have bad first dates. I’m hoping to change that with this article.

I was like you. I used to have a terrible time with first dates.

Before the date, I would get nervous. I’d worry about every little detail: what should I wear, what if we don’t have fun, what are we going to talk about, what if I run out of things to say, etc.

If you couldn’t already guess, this mental ‘preparation’ led to some pretty awful first dates. The whole process became stressful and was anything but fun.

So I went online and tried to find out what I was doing wrong. Some of the stellar advice I found included tips like: dress casual, be confident, and turn off your phone.

Wow, my life was forever changed. All along my phone was sabotaging me. Thank God for the infinite wisdom of the internet.

Obviously, none of this advice helped.

I continued to try my luck, but once you’ve had a few bad first dates, the problem only gets worse. I became even more nervous, had even worse dates, until eventually, I had enough.

I gave up dating. I was through wasting time and money, only to be left feeling miserable.

It wasn’t until I gave up dating that I realized the secret behind why some people consistently had successful dating experiences, and I couldn’t have a good date to save my life.

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6 First Date Mistakes Any Successful Online Dater Doesn’t Make

Bad first date

How important is the first date?

The short answer: big. 

Actually, the biggest.

Knowing what to do on a first date is key so the next logical topic to explore is what not to do.

First dates really are the most important ones because it can be the start of a beautiful romantic adventure or it can be so bad that it will leave you scarred and apprehensive about ever going out another first date again.

So, with that sobering thought in mind, what are some first date mistakes you should avoid doing?

Let’s take a look!

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Incredible First Dates: 5 Proven Date Ideas For All Budgets

A Dating Woman

Indecision is the staunch enemy of a fun and successful first date.

You’ve connected with someone online and you’re both interested in meeting up. You want to do whatever you can to make a great impression with that potential ‘special’ match. The problem is that we can spend a lot of time pursuing someone, but when it comes to the actual date, we are at a loss for where to go or what to do. This indecision lowers your chances of having a fun and successful first date.

Well, let’s take a look at some new and old ideas so that this post can be your go to resource for your next first date.

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How to Deal with a Bad Date

A Rose

A bad date is a place you don’t want to be.

It’s no one’s fault, yet no matter how well you seem to get on online, you can easily find yourself in a public place with a stranger having a real struggle with simple conversation.

What should you do?

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Should You Go On a Second Date if There Was No Spark?

A lit match.

Online dating offers up a host of ironies of which my favorite is probably the “first date no spark” scenario.

You get yourself in a right tangle of nerves about the date for whatever reason: you might be new to online dating, or perhaps you think the match is particularly suited to you. You feel like there’s a lot riding on the date and you’ve got to be on top form.

And then that much-anticipated spark isn’t there. Your date might be perfectly friendly and perhaps even interesting but you don’t feel that special something that signifies the beginning of something beautiful (or at least, you know, nice).

The question then is, should you give a match another go if there were no butterflies first time around?

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